You can’t judge a book by it’s cover…..of course, I’m not really talking books here. I’m talking about judging someone without knowing their background, their story or what’s going on in their life.
There are times that I am out and probably look like a crazy person. I might be mad, stressed out or ready to cry. Don’t judge me without knowing what’s going on.
My two oldest children have mood disorders. My daughter was diagnosed with Intermittent Explosive Disorder and my oldest son is Bipolar. I feel that I have always been judged on my parenting, that my kids weren’t angels out in public or whatever. Yes, I know my kids throw fits, they talk back, they fight. It is hard to deal with on a daily basis…..but it’s what I live with. If you see me out with the kids and my temper is short and I look mad, it might be because I have already had a really hard day with my kids and can hardly handle it anymore. If you don’t have a child with these issues, you aren’t going to understand what it is like to deal with it. Don’t try to tell me what worked with your children because I bet I’ve tried it and it hasn’t worked for me. We’ve had the kids in counseling for nearly 7 years and tried many things…but I don’t have “normal” kids.
It might be stressed because I got in a bill that we don’t have the money for right now and I’m not sure how we are going to pay it. My mind might be going in a million directions trying to figure out what we have to sell or what I can do to make the money really quick. I might be wondering if I spend money on food for the house or paying the bills, which could I get by with putting off for another day?
There are so many other scenarios as what could be going on behind the scenes that even my closest friends don’t know about…don’t judge me. You don’t know what I’m going through.
I don’t try to judge anyone….regardless of what they are doing.
People judge strippers all the time. You don’t know why they are stripping or what is going on. I have many, many friends that are or were strippers. Some of them did it for easy money, others did it because they could make more money that way than a normal job and have more flexibility to raise their children on their own. Just because they were stripping doesn’t mean they are sleeping with a bunch of men…maybe they are. Is it my business? Nope. Do I care what they do? Absolutely not. It doesn’t effect me. If they are happy, isn’t that what matters?
I don’t judge anyone. A cheating man/woman? Maybe there is a reason. Maybe they need that comfort from someone else because they are in a bad relationship Maybe they are beaten or get told on a daily basis what a horrible person they are? Maybe that isn’t the case, but how would you know what is really going on in their head, in their lives?
Remember that no one is perfect and we have all done things that an outsider may not fully support….but we all had reasons.
That is my rant for the day….please don’t judge someone…you don’t know what they are going through or why they made the decision they did.