If you’ve ever read my site, you know I love shoes. I love heels. I love shoes that make me feel good about myself. I wear heels all the time. If I’m not wearing heels I’m normally wearing wedges or at least cute flats. I don’t like wearing sneakers unless I’m at the gym.
I spent about 6 years as a stay at home mom, only wearing Nike because I thought that’s what I was supposed to do. What would people think if I were wearing heels at the bus stop? I thought I had to dress for comfort. My closet was filled with tshirts, jeans and Nikes. That’s it.
Last April, I went to Miami for Hispanicize 2012. That was my turning point. I knew I couldn’t go to Miami and be around all the gorgeous Latinas at the conference in my jeans and screen print tshirts. What was I going to do? I got my first pair of heels from Mojo Moxy. I put on the Dreamys and for the first time in a looooong time I felt good about the way I looked. I felt…dare I say it….sexy. Yep, a pair of shoes changed my entire outlook. I didn’t have any clothes to match though. What was I going to do?!? I bought a few things and borrowed clothes to take out to Miami with me. I got my hair done and felt completely different.
After getting back, I tried to wear tennis shoes and didn’t like it anymore. I couldn’t do it. I felt like I wasn’t my best. My wardrobe began to change. I wanted nicer shirts, better fitting jeans, leggings….I wanted nice things. I don’t care where I’m going, I want to dress nice. I don’t care if I’m home by myself all day, you might find me in a cute dress with wedges or skinny jeans, heels and a cute top. You never know. I wear what makes me feel good that day. I guarantee that you will rarely catch me in my Nike’s…unless you go to Planet Fitness. :)
Where the haters come into play….
When I go to the store I get dirty looks from the other women. I see them walking around in warm ups and tennis shoes, pushing a cart full of kids. I used to do that. But I didn’t feel good about myself. Now I feel good about myself. I’m confident and feel powerful. I hold my head up high when I walk around.
I’m not looking down on the moms that wear tennis shoes all day. Some feel great in them and are confident, and that’s awesome. My issue is with the women that look down on me because I’m not dressed like them. I have three kids, work constantly between this site and being on the Board of the ABQ West Chamber of Commerce. I am always busy. If I have my kids with me, I’ll still be in my heels, wedges or whatever. Just because I am a mom doesn’t mean I have to dress like a “mom”.
Women are far too critical of each other.
There was a thread on Facebook earlier today where I a local radio personality asked women to quit wearing flip flops to the club. In that case, I completely agree. Club floors are nasty! You should be dressed up at the club and I don’t think that there are any ways to dress up chanclas.
This started a discussion about women wearing heels to Walmart. One girl said she thinks it’s stupid. Uuummm…I wear heels to Walmart all the time. What does it matter to you? Another women chimed in that she saw someone in heels at the zoo. While I probably wouldn’t wear heels to the zoo, I don’t care if someone else is comfortable in them and wants to wear them. What do you care if they feel good about themselves? It isn’t your feet that will be hurting from walking miles in those stilettos. I say, represent and if you’re confident, more power to you!
Maybe that’s the Latina in me. I love the feeling when my hair/makeup and done, dressed nice, jewelry and wearing heels. It just feels good to me. I don’t judge others, I just want to feel good about myself.
Latina’s also know something very important. Chanclas (flip flops) are important to have around….what else are you going to throw at your kids when they act up? We know when/where to put them on though. ;)
Please women, quit hating on each other. We should be building each other up, not tearing each other down.
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Amen sister, keep talking the talk!
lol Shelley! It’s SO true though! Drives me INSANE!
I’m perfectly happy to see women in heels just as long as I don’t have to wear them. They look great on others.
Lol I haven’t hear chancleta in years. It does feel good having your hair done and dressed nice. I