Yes, my kids are on meds for their behavior/mood disorders. I admit it and am not trying to hide it. My kids need help, more help than I am able to give them.
Every time I post about my kids being put on a new med or anything, my inbox is filled with people telling me how bad meds are them. I shouldn’t use them. I shouldn’t put that poison in my kids bodies. A lot of these people either (a) don’t have kids or (b) don’t have kids with disorders like mine do.
After my daughter was born, I went through a VERY bad divorce. It left me in bed for days, covered in hives. The stress was unbearable. I ended up miserable all the time, even when I wasn’t dealing with the divorce. My doctor put me on Zoloft to help stabilize my moods. I could feel a difference the same day. I had been through counseling and support groups. It hadn’t helped. This little pill made all the difference though. I was happy again.
I am the type of person that doesn’t even like taking Tylenol when I have a headache…seriously. For me to break down and take this pill daily was a big deal. But it helped me, so I was okay with it.
When I see my kids struggling. When I see the pain in their eyes. When I can see that they don’t understand why they are freaking out and can’t stop crying or throwing a tantrum. When I can’t handle them anymore and am actually contemplating allowing the therapist to remove my child from the home because they are no longer safe to be around. That is when I realize this is bigger than anything I can handle. That is when I realize that maybe, just maybe a medication can help.
Of course I don’t want my kids on medication, but it is necessary. I’ve tried counseling, we’ve tried diet change…..it wasn’t working.
I thought I was alone in this and I thought I’d get a lot of backlash sharing my story. I did get some messages telling me I was doing wrong by my kids for medicating them. I got messages telling me they are just being kids and let them be. I was told it was parenting. I was told it was diet. I was told it was just kids.
More than those though, I got messages saying they had dealt with the same exact thing and felt like THEY were alone. They felt like they couldn’t share their stories without being judged.
Judge me if you want. It’s okay.
I’m doing what I think is right by my kids. I’m working to find solutions before they get older and have even more issues. I’m working to ensure they can control their anger and won’t grow up to “freak out” and go on a shooting rampage.
Just this passed weekend a family was shot and killed by their own son. There has to be something not quite right for a kid to go in and kill five of his family members. A healthy person doesn’t do that. Mental illness is just that, an illness. It has to be treated or it will get worse. It doesn’t just “go away” and pretending it isn’t there doesn’t help you deal with it.
Don’t be so quick to judge someone…you might not know the full story.