I’ve been blogging for years now. I was in the industry before I had this site…and this one has been up since 2010. The blogging world has transformed in the past few years…a lot! There are hundreds of thousands of “mommy bloggers” out there now. Yes, there were a lot years back, but at a different level. A mommy blogger started a blog to share experiences with her kids, to share events with family and friends. Blogging has taken a whole new face and it has gone from a loving, beautiful thing to a cut-throat, backstabbing, evil, ugly thing that really has nothing to do with kids any more.
How can you be a mommy blogger if you don’t see your kids?
In the past few years, I’ve been on a number of press trips, thanks to my blog. I’ve gone to the P&G labs to see how Tide was made, I’ve gone to the Britax factory to see the car seats being put together and tested, I’ve walked the red carpet for the World Premier of Oz The Great and Powerful and most recently walked the dairy farms in California in a partnership with the California Dairy Board. While all these trips were so much fun and I did experience things I never would here in New Mexico, I always felt guilty. I felt guilty I was leaving my family. I felt guilty I was putting more of a burden on my husband to care for the kids and figure out schedules while I’ve been gone.
I’ve made hundreds of online friends and watched the transformations from when we were all new, learning the ropes and figuring out how to start making our blogs popular and profitable to some becoming very popular. I have friends that have moved onto huge things. From our little blogs, they have gone on to write for larger companies and have been featured in magazines and on television.
It’s awesome to watch and I’m proud of them.
Here’s what I’m not as proud of. There are many “mommy bloggers” that have gotten very popular, they are invited on trip after trip after trip. That’s awesome. There are lots of my friends in larger markets like LA and Miami that are invited to local events all the time. Again, awesome. What isn’t awesome when you are gone from your home more than you’re there.
I started my site because I was at home and it gave me a way to be available for my kids without having to have a “traditional” job. I have the freedom to go on a field trip when they come up, I can volunteer in the classroom or if they forgot their lunch, it isn’t a big deal to go and take it to the school. If I spend all my time on the road and going from trip to trip, then I give all that up.
How can I be a blogger, talking about my kids, how hard parenting is or even know what my kids are really into without spending much time with them? How can I share my experiences of a stay-at-home mom when I’ve been living in various hotels for more than half the month.
I’m not saying the bloggers that hop from trip to trip are bad mothers or anything like that….what I am saying is, I feel like they may have lost focus of why they even started on this path. We all change, we all transform…but it’s important to keep mind of what is important to us.
If you got a taste of “fame” and feel like that’s more important than being there for your kids performance or missing your husband’s birthday then that is your choice. To this day I feel horrible that I missed Valentine’s Day this year because I was on a Disney trip. I made the wrong decision. Yes, it was the trip of a lifetime…but I put that before my husband, which is wrong.
I don’t want to be that blogger that puts trips and conferences before my family. I don’t want to be that blogger that spends so much time outside the house and away from my kids that I forget what it’s really like to be home with my kids every day.